But in all my fluctuations, one thing I have never struggled with is getting laid. Despite the dominant cultural narrative, there are no shortage of men of all sizes out there who are attracted to fat women. Both the internet and TV seem to operate like fun-house mirrors, taking women who are perfectly desirable and attractive in their day-to-day lives and reflecting them back as grotesque stereotypes for commentary. The idea that you must have a thin body to be sexually attractive is just not true, and trotting it back out for another tired storyline is boring and lazy. While there are plenty of confident, sexual plus-size women like me out there, most of us have had to fight to claim our sexuality because we live in a society that tells us our bodies are a punchline.
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It rang a bit false to me, naive fool that I obviously am, that so many people can grow into adulthood, be smart enough to get into university, and s till play childish games like this. Yeah, some of my best friends are misogynist idiots, etc. The first response I got? Harassment of fat women is common. The worst kind of objectification is often directed at overweight bodies. They all sound familiar to me.
It feels good to root for Lizzo—not just because of her undeniable talent, but also because of what and whom she represents. Lizzo is, after all, a fat black woman; she shirks easy categorization along numerous lines, including sexual orientation. Her music is celebratory.
I'm really not sure where the idea of girls wearing skirts and heels and a full face of makeup every day to school came from. Or jocks wearing their varsity jackets everywhere. You can be an artist but still be on the track team, or a social justice warrior who is also prom queen.